The Music of Love Writer

Hi Romantic Believers,

I hope your holiday season is going along well and that all your romantic dreams are floating along high up in the clouds.

As a romantic I take it to heart when I read about another couple who've smashed their "Titanic," dreams, whether from the fault of one or the other. Lately it seems so many so-called romantic couples have started to dog paddle for survival. Life today brings along so many difficult challenges, challenges that can either strengthen or sink a relationship. Infidelity and acts of immorality are on the warpath, attacking so many couples.

The public places athletes, even more than Hollywood stars, up on tall pedestals, declaring them to be blazing super heroes. Another athlete has crashed that dream. Tiger Woods, the golf super hero, allegedly has trashed his marriage and family with multiple accusations of infidelity and immorality. If the accusations are true, how insane can one man be, especially being in the media and public eye? How could he allegedly use e-mail and cellphone messages to correspond with his mistresses, realizing everything could eventually become public knowledge? Not to say the women he allegedly selected to be with could be considered to be such upstanding characters, knowing he was married. But who can say what Tiger Wood's private life and marriage was truly like? Still he stood there and uttered vows of romantic committment and somehow these vows didn't mean anything when it came to his alleged acts of infidelity. "Sex addiction," can't explain away infidelity, as so many men are starting to use as an excuse. Divorce statistics are on the rise, with couples living together being the new norm.

Tiger Woods isn't by far the only public figure who has defiled the definition of romance in his relationship. And I can't forget to mention the, "so-called ladies," who ignore the fact that a man's married or in a relationship, and lower themselves to indulge in an affair. As a woman I don't understand how you could accept less of a relationship, or ignore the fact another woman and even children could eventually be hurt because of your actions. At times I wonder if romantic dreams are now a fleeting artifact, just like the Titanic which sunk with most of it's secrets.

Temptation is there, especially if you're living and breathing. I view a handsome man and can't deny that sometimes, "wicked thoughts," cross my mind. I create sexy men with my writing and of course these personalities come from my own hidden desires. A fleeting thought is one thing, acting upon those thoughts is another. And I believe if you're in a true romantic relationship, the thoughts remain a fleeting moment. There's only one dream man who can show up at my door and then all bets are off, but he'll be my forever secret. LOL

As a romance writer, words are definitely important. Romantic vows of committment were something that used to have substance to them. My own husband has learned through the years how much his words could either hurt or enhance our romantic relationship. My creative romantic nature of course can be difficult for any man to live up to, but I won't deter from my values when it comes to romance. I continue to write happily ever after romantic stories, and readers will continue to buy romantic themed novels.

Relationships take work, compromise, honesty, compassion, and endless amounts of love and romance. May you have an enjoyable romantic season with your family and friends.