The Music of Love Writer

I haven't been blogging for the past months due to illness in my family, followed by  my own new chronic illness. As a romance writer my characters are usually in perfect health, perfect physical form. Most readers don't want to read about tedious, gut wrenching details of illnesses when they relax with their romantic novels. Life, true reality, happens to be another matter.

As a romantic couple life brings on illnesses and you may find yourself being placed in the role of being a caregiver or carereceiver. Some carereceivers will drain their caregivers of every drop of blood, such fericious blood sucking vampires. LOL And some caregivers won't be able to handle the details of having to be there to handle the dirty details of taking care of an ill partner. Some wedding vows have the words, "through sickness and health," but when sickness occurs it may place a load of stress on the romantic part pf your relationship. Even a simply cold can have you screaming, "Do you have to blow your nose so loud? Roll over and stop breathing on me? Go sleep in the other room, " to your romantic partner.

A critical illness or long term chronic illness tests the limits of romance. You may have to look deep into yourself to redefine the meaning of true romance. During an illness relationships are put to the test, with some people choosing not to reman in the relationship with their ill partner. You may find yourself struggling on, doing the daily details but secretly wishing you could push your partner's wheelchair down the steps, or kick crutches out from under them as they slowly hobble along.

But illnesses can also increase your romantic bond, with the element of caring, nutruing welling over you. Your feelings of love towards your ill partner may increase. The sense of the meaning of true love can conquer the failings of physical love.

And so I face this new element of another chronic illness in my relationship with the road leading us to a new defined role of romance in our relationship.